“You Create Your Own Universe As You Go Along”
~ Winston Churchill
Something a little different today. This is Part 1 of a 2 Part Blog. (Part 2 to follow tomorrow). This was inspired by 2 things that happened recently, both within the space of an hour. I thought, OMG, this is amazing that I’ve met 2 people in the space of an hour who were experiencing the exact same problem with their level of thinking. So I decided to write about it.
Both basically dealing with the same concept but slightly different in each case. One has to do with finding a date, the other with tomato’s (more on that tomorrow lol)
Winston Churchill once famously said, that we create our own Universe as we go along. I believe this is way more true and profound than most people realise. Of course, if you’ve seen “The Secret” Film, you’ll realise that as we think, we are attracting things into our lives. But that’s not really what I’m talking about here. What I mean is that we develop habits of seeing the world around us in a particular way. This thought pattern becomes a prison, preventing us from seeing the world in any other way.
Let Me Explain…
Have you ever heard the old saying, “My dog is a cat”. A cat has 4 legs, my dog has 4 legs, therefore my dog must be a cat! That is to say that we create rules in our mind about how we believe the world to be. Our mind believes that these rules MUST be true and therefore everything we experience MUST be congruent with these beliefs. Therefore, if we experience anything that violates these beliefs, our mind interprets things not as they are, but how we falsely believe them to be. We accept this distorted picture as reality and we say to ourselves, see it’s happened again. We then use this distorted picture to add validity to what we thought in the first place.
A Practical Example…
Recently, I was having lunch at the MCA Café in Sydney with a friend who I haven’t seen in a while. Last time I saw him, he was in a relationship, when we met up this time around, he was telling me he’s single again.
As we spoke, (we were speaking as friends not as Life Coach and Client, but nonetheless I wanted to help him), he started describing the sort of problems he was experiencing trying to find the “perfect” woman for him. He was saying things like he was now very suspicious of women. He said he found women very dishonest, they were just after him because he had money. He couldn’t trust their intentions. He said that in order for him to commit to another relationship he would have to find a woman who could restore his faith in women. She would have to prove to him that she was genuine.
As a friend, I thought it was my obligation to gently prod him to realise that it was in fact his level of thinking which was creating his biggest problems. Now, this is not to say that he may have dated people in the past who were, as individuals, not genuine, after his money and all the things that he described. But this doesn’t define ALL WOMEN.
And I can completely understand what is going on with his psychology. He has some bad experiences, and after each time he feels hurt. So, his subconscious jumps into gear to try and protect him. His subconscious creates this rule in his mind that all women are inherently bad, dishonest, gold diggers. So as to protect him from getting hurt again, his mind tells him that he cannot commit to another relationship UNTIL he meets a woman who can PROVE to him that she’s not like all those other woman.
But here’s the problem. If he’s waiting for that one woman who’s not like all the rest, he’ll never find a woman like that! Not because all woman are bad, but because his mind is no longer a passive observer. He has now become the creator of his own Universe. As Winston Churchill said, he is now creating his Universe as he goes along. Everytime he meets a new woman, it doesn’t matter what she’s like, his mind tells him that she’s just like all the rest. He expects this to be the case and so his mind will be obediently congruent with his expectations.
The reality is that he could meet a bus load of “The Perfect Woman” and he’ll never be able to see them as how they really are. For as long as he is stuck in this old paradigm, no matter how perfect a woman is, his mind will never allow him to see it. He is creating a Universe as he goes along in which ALL women are dishonest gold diggers, and so that is the only way his mind will ever allow him to see any woman.
Is This A Hopeless Case?
Absolutely not. Anyone has the ability to transform their own lives. If your current level of thinking has bought you to where you are now, then a new level of thinking can take you to greater heights. In fact, that is what my Life Coaching business is all about. Helping people to change their level of thinking in order to bring about new realities in their lives.
Your mind will always be congruent with the mental image that you have created for the world. If you’re waiting for things to change, you’ll be waiting a long time. That’s because YOU need to change first. A classic example is someone who says that things are so bad at the moment and that’s why I’m so down. But if things improve, THEN I’ll be happy. But in reality, you need to be happy, THEN things will change.
Be sure to catch my next Blog tomorrow where we’ll discuss this further. But for now, here’s your homework. Look at some area’s of your life where you have perhaps been creating your own Universe as you go along. Ask yourself, what thoughts have been at play in creating this Universe? What thoughts would you have to have in order to enable to different Universe to take shape?